When it comes to women, any guy will tell you that variety is the spice of life. Lately our culture seems to be embracing the concept of multiple partners.
Let's face it: Men like new and different. It's just the way we're made. In fact, according to Tim Birkhead, author of Promiscuity: An Evolutionary History of Sperm Competition , sexual promiscuity is the norm, rather than the exception, throughout the animal kingdom.
But for women, just the opposite seems to be true. Even though the female double standard is alive and kicking (when a woman wants to date more than one man, she's "exploring her options," but if a guy goes multiple, he's a typical male pig who can't make a commitment), a woman's ultimate goal is still marriage, meaning committing to one sex partner for the rest of her life.
Dating multiple women at once is a heaven and a hell. You get to experience a lot of the fun parts of dating without much commitment. But you're also constantly having to keep your story straight in case one of the women comes to suspect something is wrong. Maybe you have what it takes to date multiple women at once.
To date multiple women at once, you must implore either the honest strategy or deceptive strategy.
Let me teach you how to use the honest strategy. This is essentially the difference between being a gentleman and being “that asshole.” Womanizing assumes some sort of deception. In contrast, dating multiple women is about being indecisive and actively avoiding monogamy. It has zero to do with duplicity or running game.
Tell a girl on the first date (or even beforehand) that you are not looking to date only one girl. Remind her that this means she can date other guys, too. For example: "I'm not looking into dating anyone exclusively right now, so if you want to go on dates with other guys, that's fine with me." Some women find this acceptable and might even enjoy the freedom. Or, she might be put off. Either way, telling the truth from the start will make your life easier and avoid breaking someone's heart.
Don't hide that you're going on dates with other girls, but don't specify it either, unless she asks. Let's say she asks you how the day before was, and you were on a date. You could say "It went well. I went to the movies. Saw that new movie frozen that just came out, it was pretty good." You don't need to specify that it was a date, or who you went with. But if she asks, don't lie.
Now let me teach you how to use the deceptive strategy. Make sure each girl has no idea who the other is, or that they run in 100% different social circles or schools.
When you buy one girl something, buy the same gift for the other girl, too. That way you will never forget which present you bought for whom.
Keep a date planner and make sure it's always hidden. Use pet names such as "honey" or "sweetheart" to avoid mixing up their names.
Avoid relating with the girls on Facebook or twitter. That way, the girls don't run into each other on there.
Be careful when "double booking" --that is, going on dates with two different girls on the same day. It's very risky.
DO NOT GO TO THE SAME PLACES with different girls and don't bring the girls around your friends if you're worried they'll spill the beans.
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